We introduced 18 questions from readers in the past, and we’d love to do it again. Here are three more ways, including delicious NYC desserts, and three ways to feel like a sex creature…
Q. “I used to enjoy sex, but my sex drive died sometime during the pandemic. I’m single, but I don’t feel lust for anyone. Honestly, if you told me I had to spend the rest of my life single, would I… be okay? How can I get my sex drive back? Do I even care? “- Amy
ONE. Hi Amy. So you don’t feel like a sex person right now, and that’s fine! Everyone’s sex ebbs and flows. But the fact that you asked this question makes me feel that you might be interested in returning to a more glamorous place, so here are three steps, if you’re in the mood:
1) First, connect with your body. Sometimes in life, you feel like you’re being crushed by a block that doesn’t really concern you. So, take a long shower and watch the warm water on your skin; Walk briskly until your cheeks are rosy and windy. Wear something that makes you feel good – maybe a soft shirt or jeans that hug your curves.
2) Watching a sexy drama can also make you have sexy thoughts. In my twenties, I read Grey’s Anatomy and found myself really, really, really striking, like, all the time. I actually wrote about it for Glamor: “I walk to work in the morning and watch the guys on the street. Not in the not-so-cute way of wearing the scarf, but in the-he-so-hot-I-want-to-take him-to-bed kind of… Sex drive mine is on fire. ” You can try Normal person or Feeling good or Not safe or Bridgerton. (I would also like to introduce This Instagram.)
3) Finally, orgasm begets orgasm. The more you have, the more you want. To end, I love Pom, a flexible, waterproof vibrator with five strengths and models; as Eva, a hands-free, game-changing vibrator you can use solo or with a partner. Also, this sex oil feel so good. We mentioned this to Dame and they are giving Cup of Jo readers 15% off any first order with code CUPOFJO15. I discovered the vibrator in my twenties and I will never live without it again.
Hope this helps, Amy. CoJ readers, please share if you have more advice or have been in the same position. (We all have!)
My friend Linus tell me about eating banh beo
Q. “I live far from my grandchildren. Is there a game you can recommend for a FaceTime/Zoom call? What are the best conversation starters for young kids to interact with, other than what you did today? ” – Leslie
ONE. Yes! And I agree with you: “What did you do today” can be overwhelming for a little guy who lives firmly in the present and for whom an ordinary day feels like a lifetime. My phone conversation with the kids was: “Can I ask you three questions?” (a rhetorical tool that I have learned in time my law school days to structure the conversation and get people’s attention). And then be very specific with your questions, as these are a lot easier to answer than open-ended questions. Example: Do you have any dessert today? Can I see how high you can jump? (With slightly older kids, can I see how fast you run / can I see you doing exercises or jumping moves / etc) What’s your favorite animal? How old are you, and when is your birthday? What movie do you like to watch? Is it snowy or sunny? I can make a funny sound, can you? Do you miss me cause I miss you so much!!!!!
And for the game, we like Skribbl.io, which is basically the online Pictionary. When I was separate from Covid, me and the guys played it a lot of times on Zoom, it was very interesting and engaging. I’m curious to hear more, if CoJ readers have ideas!
Q. What’s your favorite dessert spot in NYC? You mentioned dessert day with friends, and I’ll be in town soon. – Night
ONE. Good question! If you’re a fan of cakes, take the train straight to Cobble Hill, Brooklyn, to Bar Bete’s Yellow cake with giant salty chocolate coating. Don Angie in the West Village serving Fior di Latte Mochi, the mochi is stretched around the fior di latte gelato, drizzled with olive oil and sprinkled with salt. If you’re craving chocolate (or need a great gift), you can’t go wrong Stick With Me Sweets, a small chocolate shop in Nolita. Finally, I texted our food columnist Jenny Rosenstrachwho immediately retorted: “Cereal milk served with cornmeal at Milk candy bar! “Fortunately, they have locations all over the city. Bon, Eve app.
Think? Do you agree with these? Or will you give different answers? Do you have any other questions you’re pondering these days? We would love to hear…
(Nuria Seguí’s top photo / Stocksy. Cake photo by Passion.)