Matthew McConaughey explains that despite his negative childhood experiences around sex, he refuses to let blackmail and sexual abuse define the rest of his life.
The actor talked to Amanda de Cadenet on her podcast Conversation as her first guest in the new series titled “About the Men”. During the conversation, McConaughey shared about going through trauma and some of the lessons his father taught him about consent and physical closeness. When asked how he knew what is “right” from an early age, he replied: “I was taught, guided, by my parents to respect women, respect relationships. relationships, respect for sexual intimacy, respect for space. ” He continued, “My dad always had this when he taught us birds and bees, he said, ‘You know, you kiss to that age?’ and I said, ‘Yes, sir.’ And he said, ‘Well, it’s going to go further one day. It will probably go to where you will be intimate and there will be breasts, and then there will be below the waist. ‘- I’m paraphrasing -‘ It will happen to you too. ‘ And so he said, ‘Son, as a man in the situation,’ told me about a heterosexual relationship, ‘If you ever feel a girl, a woman , hold on . . . please stop.” He even said this, he said, ‘You might even feel them hesitate, and after you stop, they might say, “oh, no, no, come on.” Do not. Wait until next time. ‘ And he was right, I had a certain feeling that it was like, ‘No, no, no. OK, I’m out. ‘ Believe you’ll have another day, if that happens. “
The Stunned & Confused The star also said that even after experiencing blackmail and sexual abuse, he was able to continue to have some positive romantic relationships with girls. Because after those traumatic experiences, he explained, “Again, I was very clear, that’s not right, that’s not cool, that’s not so. Then I had to have some healthy sex and have girls that I liked and liked me, and we gradually got intimate and it was pretty and awkward, and all that, but it not so ugly. “
McConaughey originally revealed in his 2020 memoir Green light that he was blackmailed to have sex for the first time at the age of 15 and then “drugged and sexually harassed” when he was 18 by another man who knocked him unconscious in behind a truck. But he swore that he wouldn’t let those negative experiences make him a victim. He told de Cadenet, “I wouldn’t be afraid of relationships because my first experience was blackmail. Unh-uh. It was a mistake. No, it’s not like that. And if I go on and I won’t let it beat me. That’s another thing, I compete. I’ll go on, “I’m not going to let that defeat my feeling of trust in people and say, ‘No,’ I can have a healthy relationship ‘ Non negotiable… I still get, even tell you this story, I understand… but will I bring it? with people and how I trust people, and how I see situations and risks that I can take.”